Irish Association of Relationship Mentors is the professional and representative body for Parent and Relationship Mentors in Ireland
Are there times when you feel overwhelmed in your role as a Parent or in any role you hold in life, as an educator, as a front line worker, as an essential worker, IT worker as Leader, Manager, Colleague, or staff member of any workplace?
Sometimes being an Adult can be lonely, isolating, stressful and depressing. If you find yourself in a situation like this, seeking support is the first step to resolution.
With compassion and understanding and without judgment or criticism Parent and Relationship Mentors are qualified to empower, support and encourage you in whatever role or roles you hold in how to respond effectively to any of the following challenges.
The challenges of a being a parent, educator, front line worker, essential worker, IT worker, a leader, manager, colleague staff member of any life setting
- Self care.
- Understanding the intention of human behaviour, children’s and teens’, colleagues’ or other individuals in your life
- Communicating effectively with family, colleagues, staff and other individuals
- The emotional wellbeing of family, colleagues, staff and other individuals
- Raising self esteem & resilience in children/ teens and staff, colleagues
- Setting clear and consistent boundaries that will establish discipline in all settings
- Understanding illness in myself, children and others in my life
Rather than having a tool kit or skill set you will develop a way of being through relationships – relationship with yourself and relationships with your family and others that will empower, encourage and support you and each individual to realize their true potential.
All of the above applies to all Parenting situations such as:
Birth Parent, Single Parent, Separated Parent, Adoptive Parent, Foster Parent, Blended Families, Same Gender Parents and
All Individuals with whom you may be in relationship with.
We are always in relationship from conception right through to the end of life. It is the quality of those relationships that determines the wellbeing of individuals in all the settings in which we live.
In childhood, our focus necessarily is on how others – most importantly our parents and other significant adults – are relating with us.
As adults, the most important relationship is the relationship with self. When we have a strong knowing of self, we can relate openly to all others; our children, partners, co-workers and the wider community. The key issue here is that much of what drives our lives, personal or professional, lies at an unconscious level and will not come into conscious awareness until there is safety to do so.
Finding safety in adulthood often needs to find its start from the experience of a strong relationship with another who can relate in an unconditional manner.
The Parent and Relationship Mentor who is professionally trained and experienced provides an unconditional, non-judgmental and compassionate relationship. This creates the safety for the individual to explore their relationship with self and others.
In recent times, there has been more and more research in the field of Psychotherapy and Counselling which shows that it is not the type of therapy/counselling that is the significant influence on effectiveness; the significant influence is the relationship between Therapist and Individual.
Through the process of a loving, open, kind enquiry and safe holding between the Parent and Relationship Mentor and Individual, what emerges is a realisation of the true nature, vast intelligence and creativity which has been used to protect the self in the face of hurts and suffering in our lives.